Techniques for Positive Conflicts
1.- Know that you need a little conflict creation, when…..
When you feel upset, dissatisfied, ignored or simply angry, you need to focus on:
- What is upsetting you?
- Who is doing such behavior?
- How are you going to change that?
By confronting, of course!
Plan ahead: to be able to confront effectively, you need to pinpoint precisely what is upsetting you; how such behavior is affecting you, and the negative consequences of such behavior on your plans, time, money, energy, whatever.
To confront effectively, use this assertive tactic after planning what EXACTLY you are you going to say and do. It is better not to improvise in the heat of the argument!
This tactic really works, to call the attention of your partner and make this person be attentive and respectful of your needs…..you need to try it now.
Know how to escalate safely, and refuse to avoid once more what is hurting you both. Clean your relationship from tactics that are only frustrating and not conducive to good, positive interactions.
And focus on creating a positive environment again.
AND MUCH MORE!!!!! IF YOU ARE SICK OF HAVING THE SAME BATTLES ABOUT THE SAME ISSUES, CHANGE YOUR TACTICS, AND DO SOME SURPRISING!
You can start learning right now how to be a good enemy, by reading and working the many tactics that the the e-book
“POSITIVE CONFLICTS” offers to you.
You can download it here and be reading it in just a few minutes.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Neil Warner
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